How hard should one pressure someone to do the right thing? How relentless should one be in confrontation when you are certain you are right? I don't know about all of you, but when I know God's word on a subject, and I know the practical benefits of something, and someone chooses not to do that thing, I cannot back off. I feel burdened, even compelled to doggedly pursue them, to convince them to make the choice that I know leads to life, to joy...to God. Word to the wise: this personality trait does not lead to developing a large circle of friends.
I can think of countless specific examples, not the least of which is speaking on behalf of the babies at the sidewalks of the abortion mills. But I had an unusual new drama play out this weekend. A new mama ran out of money and called me. She needed money for her brand new baby's formula. I took a deep breath, and refused help. I told her I could not help her, but God could. Nursing her child costs nothing, has benefits for both her and the baby, and there were lots of experts around willing to help her. She did not seem enthused, but agreed to try.
However, she didn't. Not till she was home from the hospital and called me with other concerns. I revisited the nursing issue. (of course I did....) She would make no promises, didn't want to be pressured, but told me she might try. Later, she texted. Baby wouldn't latch on. She would just find a way to get formula. So I said, "Oh well," and backed off.
NOT!
"Try again," I implored her, "It will help both of you. Please, try again."
Through my cities4life contacts, I found a lactation consultant. I called the mom and asked if I could have the consultant contact her. She reluctantly agreed. I spoke with the consultant. No sooner did I get off the phone than the mama called me.
"Mrs. Vicky, I did it. She nursed. My baby nursed."
I don't know when to back off sometimes. I have dogged determination, and it can be a weakness. But I think sometimes God wants us to be pit-bulls. Don't let go. Wrestle with truth and stand your ground. You just never know when victory is one nagging text away.
I love you, Vicky Kaseorg, for being a pit bull, persistent. And for helping this Mom foo the best for her daughter's. There is much food in the verses.
ReplyDeletethank you Consuelo. She called this morning -- nursing still going well!!!!
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